Owning your truth


So last night something strange happened. I wasn’t sure if I should write about it, but I have decided to…so here we go. I follow a lot of amazing people who are in the midst of of their journeys, people who had a lot of weight to lose or maybe only a little weight to lose but ultimately people who have a range of different goals but a unified objective of getting healthier and better. People who inspire me. These people have all used different methods to get where they are now. Keto, paleo, weight watchers, surgery, shakes, plant based diets, you name it I probably follow someone doing it or at least someone who has attempted it. And I don’t judge their choices, in fact what I love about the people who I chose to follow is that they own their truths. They stand up proud of what they are doing, because it works for them, and they know that’s all that matters.

Yesterday a media article popped up in my news feed from an agency which isn’t known for its super accurate reporting. It was about one of the beautiful women who I follow and it talked about her amazing milestone of losing half her body weight. It talked about her success and her journey and her choices to cut out processed foods and her commitment to exercise. And of course, it talked about the fact that she has lost the weight in 11 short months. What it failed to talk about was the fact that this inspiring woman had undergone a weight loss surgery to kick start her journey.

Now, I think I should mention here that I only saw this article because the person who it was written about shared it with her followers. I am one of those followers. It was promoted to me and I read it. I chose to consume it. I get it. There is no jealousy of success, or ‘hater’ mentality. I genuinely and sincerely read it with excitement that someone living their truth was being celebrated for the hard-work and determination with which they had successful changed their lives. And I was absolutely super disappointed to read that a key element of the success had been missed out of the conversation. Of course this wasn’t anyone's fault but the reporter. So I made a comment on the original post I read that said the following
“I have to say that this article is crazy misleading and super disappointing. While you don’t have control over what is published it is frustrating that its made out that you simply walked and ate right and lost 80kgs. Once again the media is making weight loss success absolutely unattainable to the masses” 
It makes my position pretty clear and personally I do not think that the comment was rude or derogatory towards the person in the article, or to their amazing successes. My comment was deleted. About 5 minutes after it was posted. So I followed it up with another comment.
“Hi XXX, why was my comment deleted? It wasn’t rude or negative towards you but the expectations the media put on woman that this misreporting perpetuates…” 
Again. It was deleted. And I was blocked from further commenting on this page at all. My comments were not an attack on the person in the article, it was a spotlight on the fact that the media have, once again, have alluded to the fact that through eating an apple, or a salad and by walking for 60 minutes a day, you too can lose 80kgs in 11 months. And if you can’t well basically you suck. And probably a little bit further the fact that this person had promoted the article to her fan base (which is close to 50,000 people) when she knew that the article misrepresented her journey. It was the first time that I felt like there was a gap between the truth and the image that was being presented to an audience. It was like there was a moment of hesitation in owning and accepting the reality of the journey. Of course that is simply my read on the situation and I could absolutely be 100 percent off. But I knew that it wasn’t as simple as it was presented and I knew that information had been left out. And then to have the truth deleted when it was presented… well honestly, it left me pissed off. So I went to the source of the article, and read probably close to 50 comments of people saying how they wished they had the willpower to do it and that they are never successful and want to start walking and eating right to achieve the same result (obviously I am paraphrasing but you get the jist).

You see, all this media is doing is propagating the idea that you can simply drop literally half your body weight through a 60 minute a day walk and by eating natural food. The reality is that could be true, but anyone who has tried to lose weight knows that there are far more complex emotions that are linked to weight loss, and there is much more to it than simply ‘not eating that donut’

My truth right now is I am overweight, I am tired of my clothes not fitting, I am upset that I am almost back to my starting weight, and I am exhausted from the emotional trip that this whole process has taken me on. And I damn well own that. I don’t just talk about the good times and I don’t dismiss the challenges that I face and I don’t pretend like I have all the answers. Because if I did I wouldn’t be in this position would i? So whats the point of all this? I guess its about owning your truth. About accepting where you are on your road, about not believing everything you read, and about standing up for what you believe in. Because if you don’t nobody will.

5 comments:

  1. I'm with you on this one Tillie - while I haven't read the article in question, I agree with the sentiment that it is misleading to have left out the fact that this person has had WLS as part of their journey. I know of a few situations where this has been the case and wonder why these people seem to be ashamed of their journey? I agree - own your truth!

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    1. Absolutely lady! Its all about your own journey and your own understanding of that! It just kinda upsets me that people who have lived it are okay with an agency like the media continuing the bullshit (for lack of a better term) even though they have had to struggle to get to the 'good place'

      Thanks for contributing to the discussion Meagan! x

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  2. I am not against WLS as a way to get down to a healthy size. Some people opt for it, some people need it and some people will dismiss it altogether. However you have chosen to lose the weight, you should be honest about it. It doesn't diminish your success or dismiss it in anyway at all.
    It's sad that someone doesn't want to acknowledge how their loss came about because it will always be a part of who they are from now on and they should be comfortable with that.

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    1. I am not against it at all! In any way shape or form. Its gotta be about what works for the person. The coverage of the article in question just makes it so much harder to stop the comparisons between journeys but people aren't being presented with the whole truth. I dunno I am rambling. But you get me ;)

      Thanks for chiming in Samantha! Its an interesting topic that's for sure.

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  3. I thing I saw the same thing - I find it so frustrating that it's being promoted as if she just lost that weight by herself when the surgery causes you to lose weight by literally malnourishing you. When I heard about this woman I clicked onto her page and had really dig to find out that she'd had the surgery.

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