Real Talk: Weddings

So, I don't know if you heard, but last month my fella asked me to marry him. No big deal. Ok thats a total lie, it’s a huge deal, a huge exciting and happy deal and in case I didn't mention it I am freaking out excited! I'm not the kinda girl who has been planning my wedding since I was 5. Although there was that one time while I was at uni I pretended I was engaged to go to a wedding expo... I think that was more about photography and cake to be honest. Seriously guys… Wedding cake. So good. But I am right in right into the initial planning stages and I am loving it. Don't switch off just yet... I promise that HT HQ isn't going to turn into a wedding blog. I am certainly going to be sharing a few bits and pieces along the way but it’s definitely not going to be a focus here, well that’s not the plan anyway.

There is something I wanted to talk about... Something that crosses over between health and wellness into weddings. Something that I didn’t want to write about, but now I feel like I need to. Let me set the scene.

It’s a Saturday afternoon. The sun is shining, and you are avoiding doing the dishes. You have convinced your fiancé to head to a wedding expo. You have sampled some cake, taken photography flyers and entered a competition to win a bottle of wine. It’s cheesy, and a bit too traditional for your liking but it’s not bad. A women approaches you from stall number 72. Her first mistake was calling me ma’am. I am 25. I aint no ma’am. Her second mistake was trying to sell me diet pills. Yip. Diet fucking pills. But wait, there is more, if pills weren’t my thing I could select from a number of ‘skinny wraps’, shakes, or meal plan options, or head on over to any one of about 6 other stalls to be sold some miracle weight loss concoction so that I can look good on my wedding day.

This whole ‘shredding for the wedding’ thing is seriously crazy. If you follow the blog on facebook you may have seen about a month ago I posted about people asking me if I planned on losing weight before my big day. Societies crazy ass expectations of weddings and brides is seriously starting to do my head in. I get it. And in a lot of cases [including mine] people want to lose weight regardless of a white dress and a fancy suit and the wedding just provides that little extra nudge to really get serious about it. But I am so sick of this multi zillion dollar industry telling me that in order to be happy, and look pretty I need to drop 20 kgs.

News flash people! I am going to look good on my wedding day. Actually, I am going to look fantastic. I am going to be marrying the love of my life, I am going to be surrounded by my best friends and my family, I am going to pick a dress that makes me feel amazing, My hair and make up is going to be super pretty and I am going to be full of so much love that there is no way on earth I am not going to look like a total rockstar. I have never, in my 7 years of photographing weddings, seen a bride who isn’t radiating from the love and excitement of her big day. Because love is fricking magical and it’s like this crazy fairy tale thing happens where you turn into this babe’n princess for a day. I am not lying, it’s like Disney. And seriously, that is going to remain the truth whether I lose a few kilos, stay exactly as I am now, or god forbid gain a couple of extra pounds because I ate a block of jelly tip chocolate [seriously how good is that stuff!]

I do not need to lose weight to feel beautiful on my wedding day. In fact, I do not need to lose weight to feel beautiful any day. And neither do you. No matter what a magazine or a bridal blog tell you, you have to do what YOU want to do.

Note: I am introducing this new little segment. Real Talk. Its really just a place for me to have a chat about whatever is going on in my world, without any sugar coating. I think it will be fun. Come on.


  1. Good for you! You'll look beautiful :)
    Dieting can do one.

    1. I am so with you girl! Haha Its such a bizarre and funny industry though. I mean come on!

  2. My advice to any bride is: do what you want and what makes you happy :) It's your wedding. You're going to look amazing :)

    1. Exactly my thoughts. Your significant other obviously loves you, and you should damn well love yourself as well!


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